New Year, same me.

As we enter 2017, I wanted to share some of my New Years Resolutions with you, based on the lessons I've learnt from 2016.

New Year, same me.
A moment to appreciate my friend Steph's cooking skills.
A moment to appreciate my friend Steph’s cooking skills.
This is where I got to see in 2017!
This is where I got to see in 2017!
This is where we enjoyed dinner and games!
This is where we enjoyed dinner and games!
This is the amazing Needle & Thread dress I wore!
This is the amazing Needle & Thread dress I wore!

Happy New Year to you all from a very sunny Gambia. Naturally, rather hungover, I’ve been thinking about my New Years resolutions.

I know that an awful lot of of bad things have happened in 2016, but for me personally I think 2016 has been one of my favourite years. 2015 was a very challenging year and I remember crying when the clock struck midnight into 2016 because I was so relieved to see the back of it.

It shows that a lot can change in a year, and whilst I do get fed up of seeing all the hundreds of New Year, New Me sentiments across social media, I think it would be weird to not seize the feeling of new beginnings and reflect on what we can do to make 2017 even better. No matter what you may have gone through las year, the world is really your oyster in the next 12 months.

So here are a few of my goals and aspirations for the year.

Spend less time on my phone. 

I spend nearly all day on my phone. I do most of my work and emails on it, which is fine, but it’s all the other things I do. I always waste at least half an hour as soon as I wake up and before I go to bed scrolling through social media or reading rubbish news stories. And when I’m not on instagram, I’m playing Candy Crush.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not necessarily a bad thing, but I realised I am getting no fulfilment from it and also, it means I’m always available to everyone, or waiting for people to get in touch. Plus, all that time I’m wasting could be spent reading (I used to read loads), going to the gym, playing games with friends.

I’m going to start keeping my phone on airplane mode whilst I get up and do my emails and exercise. I’m going to start leaving it in my room whilst I’m watching a film in the living room. I’ve deleted all the game apps on my phone too, RIP Candy Crush, I’ll miss you.

Read more. 

With that in mind, I want to read more. I love reading, I mean I have a whole page dedicated to it on my inspiration page, and I am ashamed to say that in 2016 I didn’t read a single book. My sister bought me a book for Christmas, it’s called A Little Life by Hanya Yanacihara, and she says it’s the best book she’s ever read in her life (and I really respect her taste!). I’m giving it a go, and I’m amazed at how bad my attention span is! But it’s so much more satisfying.

Set limits with people.

I’m naturally a very caring person, and I trust and love people pretty much the moment I meet them. Be this friends or men.

I always want to help people in whatever way I can, be it with their career success or personal happiness, so often I end up giving everything to people. I always think of things I can do, people I can put them in touch with etc, and sometimes I am left feeling disappointed that people don’t give me the same level of effort. Sometimes I even end up falling out with people because I feel taken advantage of.

But here’s the thing, no one asked me to do anything for them, and people have their own limits of how much they do for people. And so really it’s only me that is allowing myself to feel this way.

Therefore, this year, I’m going to hold back a little and I know that as a result I will feel happier, which in turn will make me a nicer person to others anyway.

Write more on my blog. 

I love my blog, and I love writing, but there’s times I fall out of love with it or feel overwhelmed with the amount of things I want to write about. For the last few months I’ve focused on my 5 ways to wear posts, where I offer outfit ideas to you based on events or occasions. The reception is amazing, and I really hope you find them useful, but obviously that is more visual and the writing doesn’t feed my soul. I want to share thoughts and experiences with you more and be more connected. I have a category on my site called Love, and I wanted to write about love and dating experiences, and actually I have written a few things but I’m still scared to publish them. Maybe this will be the year.

I’d love to know what you guys enjoy reading about, or what you would want to read? I’d love this site to be a way to connect with you in the way you want.

Write to do lists. 

Between daily admin, DJ’ing, blogging, radio and TV presenting, modelling etc I feel amazingly lucky, but also I always have 1000’s of things running through my head that I need to be doing, or should be doing. Usually one area will become my focus for a week or two and then I move on to the next.

I have pretty bad ADHD, I am that person that will go to boil the kettle 5 times before I actually remember to boil the kettle. I get so easily distracted!

I want to write to do lists so I don’t forget to do things and so that my focus is split fairly and consistently around the things I do.

I also want to write a goal list of things I’d like to have achieved by the end of the year so I can refer back to it in the mornings and work everyday towards achieving them.

And there we go, I think they are the main things. Can you relate to any of these? I’d love to know your resolutions and goals. Also – book recommendations please!

Either way, thank you for all your support – all the likes and reads, it means so much. I hope you have a very happy and healthy 2017, and remember, a lot can happen in a year.

Oh, and this is the dress I wore last night:

New Years Eve Gambia

2017! Let’s do this! x

Ashley James

Ashley James

5 thoughts on “New Year, same me.

  1. Your dress is very cute, you look gorgeous 🙂

    2017: I’ll play more Tennis with my friends and family.

    2016 was a bad year for me I’ve lost my great auntie and my aunt….

  2. Agree on setting limits with people. Giving 101% all the time can be very draining and only leads to disappointment. Set your limits and stick to them 🙂

  3. Hi Ashley
    I love your Blog 🙂
    I am a Music Producer based in London. I mainly make House Music 🙂 Would you be interested in making a Track together 🙂
    Its such a fulfilling thing to do x
    Let me know.

    Love
    Bobak


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